How to Appreciate Ourselves

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

How to Appreciate Ourselves

What is the truth of life?

Every moment is an opportunity to see the truth of who we are.




What creates happiness? How do you define wellness? Are your thoughts in harmony with the existence you crave?



Does life exhaust you or does life excite you? Do you feel good in your body? What boosts your energy?

Treat yourself!

Life is about finding fulfillment.

Everything is a system of binaries—be aware of the continuum of choice and action.

Discover what works for you!




Make a list of…

  1. Places you want to go.
  2. The little things you want in life (internal goals, not external things).
  3. The big things you want in life (what you see yourself doing and having in the future—the BIG picture).



  1. Center yourself by acknowledging your present state of being. Channel energy into being positive and in balance. Create your own reality. Let the world see how life is to be respected and appreciated by developing the strength and awareness to know what’s best.
  2. Silence the yearnings of the ego. Make the time and effort to care by paying attention to the details. Aspire for a solid identity and a solid life. Be your own best friend—don’t depend on others for comfort.
  3. Indulge in paradoxical thinking; instead of seeing opposites compete, see how everything must be balanced by something else. Find what balances you and what you do!
  4. Put yourself to good use. Love the vessel you’ve been gifted with by doing what benefits you! Go with the flow. Your body survives on water, so drink up! Speaking of water, go for an invigorating swim! Use your body to get your blood pumping! Go to the local ice arena—float across the ice and spin around a bit. Do indoor rock‑climbing or play any sport that challenges you (perhaps basketball, golf, or boxing). Push your body by exploring the land (maybe a hike, boat trip, or soothing bike ride).
  5. Leave your stress behind and take a walk. Become one with nature. Be attuned with your environment. Spark up the sensitivity of your nerves and their susceptibility to stimuli. Realize that you are one of the many—a piece of the whole. Listen to the harmony of life and how it manifests through nature, animals, and people. Observe the scenery. Taste the air.
  6. Accept opportunities by inviting new, fun things into your life. Laugh as much possible. Read something—appreciate your ability to think and learn. Cater to your talents and skills. Find a hobby and stick with it. See what peaks your interest within the world of arts, music, and education. Go see a performance show, like a play or an opera. Visit museums. See fantastic movies. Blast some music and rock out! Find your favorite tune and belt out your finest vocals. Dance around. Get jiggy.
  7. Use subconscious suggestion. Be convinced of a better existence. Take control. Your life is yours to live! Honor that power. Live by positive affirmations because the suggestive power of the mind is unlimited.
  8. Master Mantras. Mantras are positive declarations; they create a meditative peace, develop awareness, and heighten self‑worth. Repeat your best mantras and see how they alleviate stress and build confidence. Personalize ones for yourself.




List five things you want in life (nothing with your looks).

Everyday, in the morning and at night, say the list, out loud, word for word.

INSIDE THE SELF: Initially, your mind will resist.  Keep with it.  Unconditional reinforcement will manifest change. Start to believe these things. Let growth come your way.

OUTSIDE THE SELF: When you feel the need to do something to better yourself, keep it to yourself. Don’t share your desires—there’s no need for approval or attention. Don’t give anyone the chance to hinder your hopes and dreams.


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Be Powerful

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

Be Powerful

Everyone has freewill of the mind, body, and spirit; this freewill is the authority to govern our identity as we wish. Power is a choice. Power is the peace of strength. Power is attainable if you choose to be powerful.

How we appear to others is determined by how we see ourselves.We must take ownership of who we are!

Rather than obsess over what your appearance can for you, see what can be done for your appearance. We have the power and right to tend to our lives. If there’s room for improvement, make a change.

Circumstances and conditions can make us feel like the victim, but we have the power to define how far our foundation can be manipulated.

If we find a flaw we’re unhappy with, we must ask, “Why is this aspect of my appearance so important to me?” If the answer is something or someone outside of our control, we have to challenge our perception.

We are the architects of our lives. We construct our own reality. When we exist to please others, we take our blueprint for peaceful acceptance and hand it over, affirming, “Please, go ahead, destroy everything. Do whatever you want. Mold me as you wish. I have no say in the matter.”

Why do this?

The power is yours!

Don’t let any external power threaten your inherent right to discover and love who you are.

Our lives are ours to shape, enjoy, and develop.

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Degrading the Details

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

Degrading the Details







  • Skin
  • Hair
  • Teeth
  • Body Structure
  • Facial Features
  • Ourselves
  • A Romantic Interest or Lover
  • An Authority Figure
  • Our Family Members
  • Our Friends
  • Society
  • Past Experience

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We don’t realize how much our confidence and self-worth are determined by appearance.

When we feel ashamed about our appearance, we berate ourselves. More often, we seek ways to “fix” what’s wrong. We exaggerate the need for makeup, cosmetic surgery procedures, overly‑restrictive dieting, supplements, diet pills, excessive exercising…to the point of no‑return! Some go as far as mutilating their features to rid themselves of their imperfections.

We program our mind—unless we appreciate what we have, we will never know relief.

You’re imperfections are what make you unique, so learn to embrace them! Submit to the truth of how you look in your natural form. Discover your inherent beauty. Become self-assured by peacefully admitting to whatever’s lacking. With time and effort, you will grow to be comfortable in your own skin.

Everyone is beautiful in their own way. No matter who you are, there’s no one else like you. How amazing is that?

Be proud! Own your identity!

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Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

Series Introduction

I will be issuing a series of posts, with the focus on “Accepting Our Appearance”.

Everyday, we must do our best to combat our insecurities and doubts. I want us to gain awareness as to how we see ourselves, along with identifying the roots of our uncertainties.

Learning to accept ourselves is essential to being content with life. In order to progress, we must be satisfied with our present state of being.

If the importance of appearance exceeds our ability to enjoy life, extreme consequences can surface. Unfortunately, frustration with one’s appearance risk acquiring an obsession with “fixing” their perceived flaws; this is how body dysmorphia, eating disorders, and mood disorders can develop. I will use an interview, the book Wasted, in addition to the documentaries Baby Faced Body Builders and Thin, to assist in exhibiting some precarious cases, related to our discussion.

All in all, I want us to create a balance within ourselves, attain healthy perspectives regarding self‑improvement, and come to accept and love who we are.

Let the enlightenment begin!

Table of Link Contents

1.Degrading the Details

2.Be Powerful

3.How to Appreciate Ourselves

4.The Interview: A Voice to be Heard

5.Book Review: Wasted

6.A Comparison to See: Watching the Documentaries Thin and Baby Faced Body Builders

7.Challenge Yourself!

Challenge Yourself!

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

Challenge Yourself!

To conclude this series, here are some links to help further our insight….enjoy!

  1. Suicide Prevention, Awareness, and Support
  2. A Guide to Moving Forward, After a Suicide Attempt
  3. 14 Timeless Ways to Live a Happy Life
  4. Reprogram Your Thinking: A Happy Brain, for a Happy Life
  5. 10 Easy Ways to Make Personal Connections
  6. 8 Simple Tips to Feel Better About Yourself


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THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK [REBLOG THOUGHTS]: When we interact with people, our opinions may get the best of us. Being passionate is one thing…being narrow-minded is another. Living as an individual in society, it’s important we recognize the proper conventions of etiquette and respect.

Feel free to solidify your stance, no matter what the topic is, but remember to be graceful. An idea will be well received if it is given properly, rather than too harshly. If we feel strongly about something, by all means, we have the right to express ourselves!

All I’m saying is, would we rather just talk away, with our thoughts floating and never taking hold, or would we rather make an impression? We must be aware of what we speak, along with how speak…our words are a representation of the self…no doubt about that!

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The situation: Jerry and Elaine are at a dinner with distant members of Jerry’s family, hosted by his elderly relative, Monya. He has not seen or spoken to these people in years and he and Elaine are grasping for things to talk about. They are so desperate that they begin to discuss the quality of the peas with unusual enthusiasm:

“These peas are bursting with country fresh flavor!”

And after that, Jerry’s mom brings up racehorses, which prompts Elaine to mention her opinion on ponies:

Elaine: What about ponies, huh? What kind of abnormal* is that? And those kids that had their own ponies.

Jerry: Oh, I know. I hated those kids. In fact, I hate anyone that ever had a pony growing up.

Monya: I had a pony!

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Making the Most of Life

MAKING THE MOST OF LIFE [REBLOG THOUGHTS]: When we feel disconnected on the inside, it’s hard to make connections on the outside. We may have the desire to know what it’s like to care, but what do we do if our logic convinces us, there’s simply no reason to? Our mind tells us, “Don’t bother…it’s pointless. Don’t waste your energy. Don’t waste your time. Stay guarded. Believe me, it’s better this way.”

We limit ourselves by the internal laws of life we create. If we feel no one will understand us…no one will. If we feel no one will care for us…no one will. If we think, “Who is no one?”, the answer is, EVERYONE.

When we feel a situation is shady or makes us uncomfortable, we dismiss it into another generality…something that makes sense. When we toss off an issue, as another absolute, we withhold the opportunity to discover the divinity existing within the details.

We must make an effort to make an effort. We must search to see the unseen. If we don’t pressure ourselves to know the unknown, we will associate our safety and peace with shunning society.

The world is a wonderfully demented place to explore and interpret; it is dichotomous in nature. There is always something to contradict one point or another; with that being said, we must try to be proactive in producing the positive. The negative will always be there…it’s our job to negate it.

Watching The Virgin Suicides

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

Watching The Virgin Suicides

WATCH: The movie The Virgin Suicides

Take note of the following:

  • Characters: Who do you identify with? Who do you feel is highly susceptible to suicide?
  • Mood: Are there any points, in time and essence, you feel you can relate to? When do you feel sudden rushes of emotion?
  • Setting: Do you feel trapped by your circumstances? How much do your immediate surroundings affect you?
  • Personal Response: If you knew the Lisbon sisters, how would you react to them? Would you befriend them or ostracize them?
  • Role Play: If you lost a sibling or parent to suicide, what would you do?
  • Emotions: If someone kills themselves, is it wrong to make it known? With suicide being a sensitive subject, should you address those affected by the aftermath or is it best to let them come to you?
  • Society: What part do the townspeople play in what happens to the Lisbon sisters?

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The Lisbon sisters are notorious, young and attractive; to the town, they are mysterious and intriguing. We can’t always judge people by how they appear to be…the secrets held within, determine our true identity.

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All Suicidal People Are the Same…Right?

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

All Suicidal People Are the Same…Right?

With suicide, the ambiguity of such an extreme act has caused people to form misconceptions as to who is suicidal.

Society claims suicidal people are:

  • Stupid
  • Lost
  • Selfish
  • Death‑Seeking
  • Cowards
  • Weak
  • Crazy
  • Lonely
  • Attention‑Seeking
  • Sinners

For suicidal people, certain stressors trigger an overflow of misery, causing a severe breach in one’s threshold for pain. At this point, they will do anything to rid themselves of suffering…the willingness to endure the pain is lost. Desperate for a solution, suicide becomes their only option.

Clearly, with such a harsh portrayal of those who have suicidal tendencies, it’s no wonder why some people feel restricted in talking through their issues. Naturally, we fear facing the judgment, embarrassment, contempt, or ridicule that rests within discussing suicide, it being one of the many taboo topics society feels are better left alone.

Escape the Pain

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Suicide isn’t an escape from life, it’s an escape from pain! If their pain could be lifted, allowing them to be healed, those who contemplate suicide would be able to deal with life. Sadly, this magical remedy isn’t easy to come by.

Anyone can be suicidal. We can’t predict who will reach the point of desired death, nor can we come up with a global understanding of why; with that being said, we must do our best not to criticize.

Instead, we should raise awareness and make an effort to show we care.


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Are You Suicidal?

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

Are You Suicidal?

The progression of suicidal tendencies varies.

When we’re going through a hard time, passing thoughts like, “I can’t take this anymore!” or extreme thoughts like, “I wish I were dead!” may have popped into our heads, once or twice. For those who are fairly content with life, these ideas are fleeting, declared in a moment of intense emotion.

What’s tricky is when we start to contemplate their validity…that’s when the warning signs pop up!

At this point, we must take note…

Suicide Risk Factors

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If you feel things are becoming too difficult, speak up! If you see someone is struggling, reach out! The longer we fester within the filth of our anguish, the more likely we are to put ourselves in harm’s way.

Suffering in Silence

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