The mind obsesses over realities it can not control.
Control your mind by abandoning the need to be noticed or appreciated. When you stop seeking confirmation, you start accepting freedom.
Use this link to get you started: How to Let Go of an All-Consuming and Boundless Obsession
How do you stop your obsessive tendencies? Any and all tips are welcomed!
My Ode to Thee
My ideal reader will search for meaning, with every aspect or angle set to be analyzed. He will hover over my words, like the twisting of a whirlwind. She will see herself in every single character I create. He will live and dream of every setting I construct. She will sink into every frame I fix for her to face. He will hold my words to his heart, hoping for his truth to harvest. She will sleep with my sheets scattered inside the racking of her skin, soul, and skull. He will hum sweet nothings at the haunting familiarity of my tales. She will trick herself into a fantasy of fantastic freedom, for my words have set her free. All my readers will see themselves, for the mysteries that they be.
–Tatiana Noelle Oquendo
Time is precious. Time is endless. Time is transient.
Take the time,
To let time go.
Yearn for more…
Feel to know.
Surrender your ties.
Free your soul.
Let your life live love,
With passion and flow.
–Tatiana Noelle Oquendo
Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”
Degrading the Details
WHAT PART OF YOUR APPEARANCE ARE YOU THE MOST CONCERNED WITH? WHY DO YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT THIS PARTICULAR ASPECT? DO YOU FEEL YOU HAVE A HEALTHY WAY OF ACKNOWLEDGING AND ACCEPTING THIS SUPPOSED FLAW?
THE ASPECTS OF OUR APPEARANCE WE CRITICIZE:
WHERE OUR INSECURITIES STEM FROM:
- Body Structure
- Facial Features
- A Romantic Interest or Lover
- An Authority Figure
- Our Family Members
- Our Friends
- Past Experience
We don’t realize how much our confidence and self-worth are determined by appearance.
When we feel ashamed about our appearance, we berate ourselves. More often, we seek ways to “fix” what’s wrong. We exaggerate the need for makeup, cosmetic surgery procedures, overly‑restrictive dieting, supplements, diet pills, excessive exercising…to the point of no‑return! Some go as far as mutilating their features to rid themselves of their imperfections.
We program our mind—unless we appreciate what we have, we will never know relief.
You’re imperfections are what make you unique, so learn to embrace them! Submit to the truth of how you look in your natural form. Discover your inherent beauty. Become self-assured by peacefully admitting to whatever’s lacking. With time and effort, you will grow to be comfortable in your own skin.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way. No matter who you are, there’s no one else like you. How amazing is that?
Be proud! Own your identity!
Link Back to Series Introduction