In life, if people insist on only fulfilling specific roles, at certain moments, who are you to change them?

Seeking complete satisfaction from one person is a demanding ordeal and not really fair.

Don’t get me wrong: there’s no need to settle for something you’re unhappy with, but perhaps learning to be content with the reality of each instance will help keep you pleased more often. If you continue to focus on what’s lacking, you’ll fail to notice what’s readily available.

Either way, what one person is not willing to provide, someone else will. That’s the way of the world…

Just because you’re not open enough to spot opportunities, doesn’t mean they’re not there!

Attract everything you need by staying real and living truthfully.

By grace, the Universe will give, but you need the freedom and awareness to know when gratitude must be granted.

With love as the power and purity of your existence, keep your energy in line with what you want, let the world reveal itself, and consciously welcome the goodness of your desires manifested.



As sexual creatures, humanity is determined by socially-accepted modes of being. As a way of comfort, we classify people as females or males, but are we mere representations of our private parts? If we think erotically and take no time to think philosophically, we lose the people in between. If we don’t see people for the image they care to portray, we are simply projecting our own prescribed expectations unto others. When we cast our projections unto others, we rob them of their humanity. In this robbing of humanity, we conceive others as nothing more than objects of observation. In turn, we use these objects to help us assess our own existence.

We must recognize each individual as a human being–not a proven model of what a female or a male is expected to be. By estranging this regulated notion of sexuality, we open up new criteria for understanding society. When we are aware of the society we occupy, we come to terms with whatever inherent social pressures are present, pervasive, and prominent.

If we don’t question and dissect, tell me, what else are we doing?



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A Comparison to See: Watching the Documentaries Thin and Baby Faced Body Builders

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

A Comparison to See: Watching the Documentaries Thin and Baby Faced Body Builders






Gender differences create socially‑accepted gender norms. The Barbie and Ken type of beauty, with men being fit and muscular and women being pretty and skinny, is prevalent in Westernized culture.

In fulfilling certain models of beauty, both men and women are at risk of living by the standards of their appearance. Men can develop manorexia, as they desire to resemble model mannequins or they can develop bigorexia, where they’re obsessed with their muscles and lifting weights because they are never satisfied with how “big” or “ripped” they are. Women tend to be preoccupied with being skinny, which highlights the notoriety of anorexia or bulimia.

When we become obsessed with our bodies, we control our appearance by either minimizing our weight or by overcompensating for what we feel is lacking. Of course, we should be aware of what we consume, how we treat our bodies, and what motivates our self‑image; however, if our body‑image becomes our self‑image, gauging how we see and value life, then there’s a problem.

The documentary Thin is filmed in a Florida clinic and follows women diagnosed with eating disorders.

The documentary Baby Faced Body Builders is filmed in the United Kingdom and follows three teenagers who live to bulk up their muscles.

Both of these documentaries present a behind‑the‑scenes look into the reality of disordered logic and restrictive habits. Many of the films’ participants confess what made their appearance a central part of their lives, along with why or why not they see their lifestyle as dysfunctional.

We have the right to live as we choose, but it’s important to note how maladaptive thinking and behaviors affect our quality of life.

We are all unique. We deserve to be appreciated for our differences. Our self‑image should not be valued by how well we can replicate imposed archetypes of perfection.

We must be honest and learn to look out for ourselves. If we know we’re doing something wrong, we should do what we can to restore order. When we face our fears, we can conquer our weaknesses.

Don’t be a victim of vanity. Value who you are.

Your life is in your hands…be kind and take care of yourself.

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