In life, if people insist on only fulfilling specific roles, at certain moments, who are you to change them?

Seeking complete satisfaction from one person is a demanding ordeal and not really fair.

Don’t get me wrong: there’s no need to settle for something you’re unhappy with, but perhaps learning to be content with the reality of each instance will help keep you pleased more often. If you continue to focus on what’s lacking, you’ll fail to notice what’s readily available.

Either way, what one person is not willing to provide, someone else will. That’s the way of the world…

Just because you’re not open enough to spot opportunities, doesn’t mean they’re not there!

Attract everything you need by staying real and living truthfully.

By grace, the Universe will give, but you need the freedom and awareness to know when gratitude must be granted.

With love as the power and purity of your existence, keep your energy in line with what you want, let the world reveal itself, and consciously welcome the goodness of your desires manifested.


Book Review: Wasted

Series: “Accepting Our Appearance”

Book Review: Wasted





Self‑development begins with the desire to better ourselves. We must monitor our behavior, check out thoughts, forgive ourselves, and seek enlightenment.

 The quest for self acceptance is life long: the journey can be bitter and full of decay or a practice of patience and compassion.

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The memoir Wasted is written by Marya Hornbacher. The book documents a period from adolescence into early adulthood. Marya details her affliction with hunger, drugs, sex, and body‑image. She describes multiple bouts of intensive therapy, along with her being hospitalized and institutionalized.

The story is disturbingly truthful and raw; it permits an inside look of being plagued by dysfunctional thinking. Marya’s self‑destructive lifestyle pushes her to neglect the world, for the sake of her appearance; her familial, social, and occupational ties are severely affected, causing her to lose touch with reality. Through artistically crafted prose, Wasted exemplifies the complexity of deprivation, discipline, and conditioning.   The story recognizes how limitations and failure create an insatiable dissatisfaction of the self. Similarly, the book touches on the hazards of perfectionism, the perils of an overly‑competitive mindset, and the plight of manipulation.

We must be courageous enough to tell our own story…our lives can help others, just as others can help our lives.

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Poem: The Daze of the Bad Days

The Daze of the Bad Days

The bad days will banish,

My feelings of fire.

They kill my dreams,

They hinder my desires.

The pain of an impasse,

Is impossibly strong.

How can I break you,

When I,

Am in the wrong?

Stuck in myself,

I know not what to do…

How does one break free,

To seek all that is true?

How can I face,

The fears of the many?

How can I learn,

The hopes of the few?

My my, little one…

You must learn to see!

The sickness of life,

Is not the sickness of me.

Yes yes,

I say,

The bad days will pass!

Never forget,

All things are temporal…

Lives must be lived,

To be progressive and plentiful.

-Tatiana Noelle Oquendo

Watching The Bridge

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

Watching The Bridge

WATCH: The documentary The Bridge .

Take note of the following:

  • Characters: If you were to commit suicide, would a public bridge be your first choice? Do you believe suicidal people have a subconscious draw into one mode of suicide, over another?
  • Situation: Do you think you could detect whether or not someone is about to kill themselves? Do you feel, if you were in the same area as the person, you would suspect his/her intentions?
  • Reaction: Upon encountering a suicidal individual, would you try and interfere, get someone else to help, or observe from a distance? If the person goes through with the suicide, how would his/her death affect you? Would you feel blameless, guilty, sad, haunted, angry…?
  • Mood: If you saw someone kill themselves, would you feel better or worse about your current circumstances? Would you be grateful or hateful, regarding your own life?
  • Setting: People kill themselves in many places: jumping off buildings, throwing themselves into traffic or train tracks, hanging in a closet…sadly, the list goes on. What difference do you think it makes, that those in The Bridge, chose this location for their ultimate escape?
  • Society: Do you feel the people around you have the power to make a difference? If you were suicidal, would you go to a public place, with the hope that someone will reach out and help you? Would you commit the act in private, protecting others from having to deal with you?
  • The Aftermath: Depending on how and where someone commits suicide, there will be something left behind. If you came across a dead body, of someone you love, how would that make you feel? If you decided to commit suicide, would you want people to find you or would you do it in a place, where you’ll be washed away, like The Bridge? What do you think this line of thinking says about you, as a person?

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Suicide is an epidemic. We must be conscious and try to make a difference.

When we acknowledge others, and make an effort to be kind, we can help create connections. Little by little, we can help strengthen the unity and wellness of humanity.

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All Suicidal People Are the Same…Right?

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

All Suicidal People Are the Same…Right?

With suicide, the ambiguity of such an extreme act has caused people to form misconceptions as to who is suicidal.

Society claims suicidal people are:

  • Stupid
  • Lost
  • Selfish
  • Death‑Seeking
  • Cowards
  • Weak
  • Crazy
  • Lonely
  • Attention‑Seeking
  • Sinners

For suicidal people, certain stressors trigger an overflow of misery, causing a severe breach in one’s threshold for pain. At this point, they will do anything to rid themselves of suffering…the willingness to endure the pain is lost. Desperate for a solution, suicide becomes their only option.

Clearly, with such a harsh portrayal of those who have suicidal tendencies, it’s no wonder why some people feel restricted in talking through their issues. Naturally, we fear facing the judgment, embarrassment, contempt, or ridicule that rests within discussing suicide, it being one of the many taboo topics society feels are better left alone.

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Suicide isn’t an escape from life, it’s an escape from pain! If their pain could be lifted, allowing them to be healed, those who contemplate suicide would be able to deal with life. Sadly, this magical remedy isn’t easy to come by.

Anyone can be suicidal. We can’t predict who will reach the point of desired death, nor can we come up with a global understanding of why; with that being said, we must do our best not to criticize.

Instead, we should raise awareness and make an effort to show we care.


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How Do You Choose to Cope?

Series: “The Self and Suicide”

How Do You Choose to Cope?

Stress and pain can surface in many forms. Uncomfortable issues are a part of life; some may accept the negative with the hope of better days, but not everyone can see the bright side.

Based upon our reactions, we either build or break our foundation.

Our level of functioning is affected by the coping strategies we choose to enact. If we respond to a negative occurrence with bad behavior or a negative attitude, we’re only furthering the negativity. Rather than make a bad time worse, we should use advanced coping skills to help us get through bad times.

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Even though every day may not be good, there’s hope for a bit of good in every day. Take it easy. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Struggle will always exist; there’s no need to make things harder for ourselves!

Let go of negative thoughts and behavior. As long as we have the ability to choose, options will always be available.

Learn to live!






How to Cope with the Challenges of Life

How to Cope with Illness or Disability

How to Cope with a Crisis

The Dos and Don’ts of How to Cope with Life’s Trauma

How to Cope with Psychological or Emotional Shock


How to Cope with the Stresses of a Move

How to Cope with Job‑loss and Unemployment

How to Cope with Life Altering Changes

How to Cope with New Job Stress

How to Cope with Major Life Changes


An All‑Inclusive Guide of How to Deal with Depression

How to Cope with Anxiety

How to Cope with Anger

How to Cope with Sadness


How to Cope with Jealousy

How to Deal with Toxic Friendships

How to Deal with Backstabbers

How to Cope with Loneliness

10 Tips for Coping with Loneliness

How to Cope with a Romantic Separation

How to Cope with Rejection and Emotional Distress, within a Breakup

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